“Ignore Other People and Listen Only To Yourself”
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If we were to build each other up rather than tear each other down, don’t you think the world would be a much better place?
Because what I find amazing when I look around and observe people that are trying to better themselves, what I often see is that they’re surrounded by people who try their damnedest to stop them.
And what’s worse is that I don’t think they even realise they’re doing it.
How many times have you seen somebody that desperately wants to improve the quality of their lives, to step out of their comfort zone, and to follow a pursuit or passion, but then right at the moment where all they need is to receive a few words of encouragement from those around them, what they actually get is sarcasm, mockery and negativity?
Bizarrely, it can very often be their closest friends and even their families that fail to give them the support that they need.
It is quite possible that this negativity can come from a place of good intention and that maybe they want to protect that person. Maybe they’re trying to help them to avoid sticking their heads up high above the crowd so that they don’t get their heads blown off, metaphorically speaking.
They keep them huddled up with the majority, to ensure they blend in, and to hold them down in a place of safety along with everybody else.
It can also come from a place of selfishness and jealousy.
Because when these people see their friends taking steps towards their dreams, they are then reminded of the fact that they’ve not followed their own paths and that they’ve let their own dreams slip away.
The ambition that they’re now witnessing only serves to highlight their own weaknesses, their own lack of action, and it reminds them of all that they could have been.
But instead of taking their friends ambition as a reminder that they too should breathe new life into their own hopes and aspirations, instead they see this as a threat and do all that they can to shut it down.
If there is no reminder, then it cannot be real.
Sadly, if the person who is wishing to move forwards in life does not yet have the strength to see through what is happening, they buy into what their friends and family tell them. Why do they do this? Because they believe that their family knows best, they believe that their friends have their best intentions at heart.
Before you know it, their dreams, their goals, and the changes that they wished to make have become a forgotten memory, like a small town disappearing in your rear view mirror.
We witness these discreet but crushing acts all of the time, in day-to-day life, and one of the most classic examples is when people are desperate to lose weight and get in better shape.
There is usually a period of intense unhappiness and even a degree of self-loathing that precedes this person’s decision to finally take action, but even once the decision has been made, the self-image issues often leave that person with low self esteem and without any confidence. As a result, it can be easy to become disillusioned. The work that lies ahead of them can feel daunting, and the journey that they’re about to begin can feel endless, with absolutely no horizon in sight.
This person needs support and encouragement.
But then we see people around them that are passing around the doughnuts, and even though they may stand their ground at first and say…
“No thank you, I’m trying to be good.”
…they get pushed and prodded and get told to treat themselves. There is no interest shown in their ambitions, they’re not encouraged to get to the gym, the bad food isn’t removed from in front of them, and instead they get mocked and teased and get pushed until their will power is crushed. And then they cave in and reach for the food.
Sadly, this scenario often plays out because the person that is offering those doughnuts wants to feel better about their own weaknesses. They believe that if everybody else eats shit, then it means they’re justified in the shit that they eat too.
They do all they can to wipe out anything that highlights their own failings, and they drag everybody else down with them.
Jim Rohn once said that we are the average of the five people that we surround ourselves with, so maybe what we actually need to do is to remove those people from our lives; like cutting away the mouldy parts from a beautiful block of cheese.
Cut them off, discard them, and surround ourselves only with the good.
Stay strong and ignore the doubters. Listen to that voice inside yourself, and listen ONLY to that; obsess with it, write the words down, focus on it and follow your path. Even if it means being alone, then be alone, because if you stay true to what you really want in life then you will soon attract a fresh crowd of like-minded people. You will form your own network and support group without even having to try.
Mark Twain once said that…
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority then it’s time to pause and reflect”
…and I believe in that whole-heartedly.
Don’t aspire to go with the crowd. Walk alone if you must.
So to every single person that wants to follow a dream but is surrounded by negativity, I speak these words directly to you.
No matter what it is that you want to do; whether it’s to get fit, lose weight, write a novel, create a blog, travel the world, climb a mountain, start a business, run a marathon, or get into the ring and fight even though you’ve never thrown a punch in your life.
Whatever the hell it is that YOU want to do with your life, whatever the hell it is that you want to achieve, whatever it is that the voice inside of you is screaming out, ignore those people that try to tear you down and distract you from your dreams.
Trust me, when you reach that end goal, whether you are victorious in result or purely in a moral sense, you will see right through those people who once stood in your way.
And they will look back, they will feel that sting, and they will owe you the biggest fucking apology of their lives.
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